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February is the month all about love.  However, the love I want to write about is the love you have for yourself and protecting your energy.

Have you ever had a friend, significant other, or even an acquaintance that, when they are around, you begin to feel your energy being depleted?  After talking to them, you feel different, perhaps not yourself.  Your head begins to hurt.  You feel tired, anxious and maybe even a little lost. These are key indicators that they may be feeding off your energy. They are known as “energy vampires”, sans fangs and cape.

We’ve all met them.  Energy vampires come in all shapes and sizes.

A common theme is those who, the minute you talk to them, are dumping their drama onto you.  They are constantly talking and boasting themselves up; all while gossiping about those near and dear to them.  Never, not once thinking to ask how things are going for you.  You leave wondering, what just happened?

In my early interaction with energy vampires, I would feel exhausted and in a bad mood.  I wondered, why do I feel this way?  I would start to think something was wrong with me and start to pick at my life. Was I jealous of all their boasting and life-filled drama that on the outside looked exciting?  What control did they have over me?

I was partly to blame. In part, my aura was not strong enough.  Most importantly, my inner “self” was not strong enough and they broke through the barrier and took whatever good energy I had, and left me empty.  Depleted, I would feel drained and weak.

If this happens to you, you may consider running.

Seriously speaking, it is ok to remove those who are toxic from your life.  I understand some we cannot, some we choose not to, but those who are removable, remove them.  Immediately.  You are not being selfish.  Ok, you are… but this is one of those times you have a pass at being selfish.  It does not mean the other person is bad, they are just not for you.  It’s Ok, detach and move on.  It is never an easy process.  I am not here to tell you how, just that I’ve been through it.  It sucks. However, if you do the hard thing and cut ties, in the long run, you will be better.  I promise.

If you insist on surrounding yourself with energy vampires, and can’t escape them, you can protect yourself.  One way is to strengthen your auric field.

Your auric field is the bridge between your spiritual and physical body, and is the protective field that surrounds and embraces you.  On a scale of emotional frequencies, Love vibrates at 500 hertz (Hz), Peace at 600 Hz, and Enlightenment at 700 Hz.  Energy vampires vibrate at a lower frequency of 50-20 (Hz), so they are always seeking ways (unknowingly) to boost their vibrations.  They are attracted to those who vibrate at a higher frequency, or perhaps, just the closest person to them.

The more you connect with your inner self, voice, and intuition, you will begin to immediately identify vampires by the effect they have on your energy. Spotting them is the first step.

The second step, before you go out into the world or answer their phone call, is to overfill your energy well.  This will strengthen your auric field.  Meaning, do more things that give you good energy and make you strong mentally and emotionally.  Meditate with crystals, exercise, journal, listen to an energizing podcast, eat a healthy breakfast, etc… arm yourself and overfill your well.  That way when you run into a vampire and they waannnnt to suuuuck your energy, you’ll have a strong auric shield built and they won’t be able to penetrate it; and if they do, you will have a little extra energy to spare.  Your well will not run dry.

In addition, do not hesitate to say “no” to them, or excuse yourself if you feel you’ve had enough.  And, never talk to them when you are not feeling up to it, or are feeling low energy.  Of course, don’t be a jerk.  Be polite and sensitive.  In the event they are in any real danger, you can sense it.

Another way to strengthen your auric field is with the use of crystals.

Here are my two favorite crystals to have in case you meet up with an energy vampire.

Black Tourmaline – This baby is your bodyguard stone. It is the strongest protection and eliminator of negative energy.  It helps build a strong, impenetrable energy field that will protect you against all things negative, even your own unwanted thought patterns.  The perfect stone to keep in the office, as it also protects against electromagnetic frequencies (EMF).  Wearing and holding it close to you will give you the best protection.

Selenite – If you have been in contact with an energy vampire, or you have been around a large crowd and want to cleanse yourself, vibrationally speaking, Selenite is your go-to crystal.  Its bright energy will help clear your aura and lift the fog from your mind resulting in mental clarity and emotional renewal. It absorbs, purifies, and helps remove stagnant unwanted energy.   Sit quietly with it and allow its bright white energy to clear your aura.

As you can see, I’ve met my fair share of energy vampires and continue to learn new ways of protecting myself.  A strong sense of self will help you to identify an energy vampire.  Above all, learning to set boundaries, coupled with overfilling your energy well and building your auric field will help from getting the energy sucked out of you.  Protect your energy!